“Why Don’t You…?”

(Not Really A Question)

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This post was originally taken from a spam message that I received on one of my social media accounts.  This happened only one day after someone else had asked me about the use of the phrase:  “Why Don’t You…?” — used when offering advice… (usually unsolicited…  just like the message I received…  Read On.)

Copied Below Is The Message:

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(Original Un-Solicited Message)

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Hi

 

Why don’t you find qualified TEFL teachers from, and it is free.

 

sincerely (no name)

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(It actually said “(no name)” in the message)  😆

And My Response:

(Slightly edited from the original for your reading & learning pleasure)  😉

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Dear (no name),

 

 

It is not possible for me to comprehend your message.

 

First of all,  your statement — (which was obviously meant to be an advertisement for a website, but for-which you forgot to actually leave a link) — is phrased in the form of a question — but without the proper punctuation.

 

But in The Common Tongue of English — when you start a question with the phrase“Why don’t you…” — it implies that we have had a previous conversation, and you are offering me advice on something which we have discussed — which we have not.

 

In this case — that would be a conversations in-which I had specifically asked you where I could find “qualified TEFL teachers”…  Which I have not.

 

Further-more — the expression:  “Why don’t you…”  is usually used as a way of offering advice, rather than actually asking a question — which perhaps you already knew — but, even though it is not actually used as a “Question“, it still requires you to use a Question Mark at the end of the sentence.  (That is called using proper punctuation to be grammatically correct.)

 

Finally — unless someone has actually asked for the advice (which I have not), then it is almost always considered to be rude to give it.

 

Don’t worry though…  I was not offended by your attempt to phrase an advertisement into a piece of advise, because I can see that it is actually YOU who actually needs a “qualified TEFL teacher”…  And that is exactly what I Am!  😀

 

So, In the spirit of your un-solicited advice — I will give you an un-solicited English lesson:

 

If you wanted to actually suggest an idea — especially if it is for the sake of trying to sell a product or service to someone — it might have been a good idea to actually say WHERE I could find this “qualified TEFL teacher” you mentioned.

 

Then, the word “from” needs to be followed by whatever you are referring to:  A Website;  A School;  Some dark alley where renegade English teachers like myself hang out, etc..  (I don’t really hang out in dark alleys…  but I am in-deed a Renegade.) 😎

 

Here is an example of how you might have framed the “question”

 

“If you are looking for help with learning English — why don’t you check out www.not-a-real-website-address.con.  There, you can find qualified TEFL teachers who can help you blah blah blah, and so-on, and so-forth…”

 

(Translation:  “I am hoping that you will be interested in what I have to offer.  If you are, I think it would be a good idea if you follow my advice to you.”)

 

So — Thank you for your un-solicited advice — but I am going to have to turn down your offer, because:

 

#1 — You never actually told me where I could find one of these mysterious TEFL teachers (and I highly doubt that they are actually “free”)

 

#2 — Because — as you would have discovered had you actually read my profile — I already AM “a qualified TEFL teacher”

 

But I do appreciate you providing me with the opportunity to use your spam message as a chance to provide a quick English lesson to — not only yourself, but — anyone else who may have been wondering why we use the phrase“Why don’t you…?” as advice, rather than a question…  even though it is formed as one.

 

 

Sincerely,

 

Claude J. Cote’

“Qualified TEFL Teacher”

 

P.S.  That lesson actually was “free”  😎

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Notice! — For any of you who think that I was being rude — don’t worry…  as I said above — I edited it a bit for this post…  because sarcasm and humor are fun…  being politically correct is not only boring — but makes everyone in the world just a little bit INCREDIBLY more weak & pathetic…

But I promise, I was more un-necessarily polite to this spammer.  who never even wrote back to thank me for the free lesson  🙁

When & Why We Use “Why Don’t You…?”

(Just to clarify…)

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    • “Why don’t you…?” — (when beginning a sentence) is not really used as a question, but is, in fact, used to offer a piece of advice.
    • “Why don’t you…?” — should only be used in response to someone who has actually asked for advice.  (Otherwise it is considered to be rude)
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(it is very easy to upset someone by giving them advice that they did not ask for.)

But!!!

| GiveMeSomeEnglish!!!ou might consider using a completely different phrase.  The reason for this is — even when the advice is asked for — using the phrase“Why don’t you…?” can sound pompous & arrogant.  As if the person is either dumb for not having thought of that already, or that the person is somehow already NOT choosing that option…  Literally by asking “why don’t you?”…  (That is why it sounds rude)

“Why don’t I?!?!?  What do you mean?  I don’t have an answer to that question!”

| GiveMeSomeEnglish!!!ry, instead, to use a phrase like, “You might consider…” or “You could…” (as I did above).  First of all — these are not questions, and they leave the final decision in the hands of the person who the advice is being given to.  If that person does not want to take the advice that is offered, then he or she is not made to feel guilty for not choosing to follow the advice — or made to feel stupid for not having thought of the option before.

Examples:

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(Anonymous Fictional Student)

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Q:
 “Hi Mr. Teacher!  I want to learn English, but I think that traditional language courses and text-books are boring & stupid.  How do you think I should go about learning English in a way that is actually fun, and will make me into a freakin’ genius?”
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(Mr. Teacher)

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A:  “Well, hello there Anonymous Fictional Student.  Thank you very much for asking!  Why don’t you check out www.GiveMeSomeEnglish.com?  It is — by far — the coolest freakin’ English website in the Universe!  And that is a scientifically quantifiable fact.” 
😎
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(Anonymous Fictional Student)

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Response:  “Thanks for the great advice!  I’m going to go there now, and maybe I’ll just stay there forever!  You’re the greatest!!!”  😀
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And…

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(Concerned Supporter Of English Education)

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Q:  “Hello Mr. Teacher.  I noticed that you have a great bunch of websites here that all make-up the “The GiveMeSomeEnglish “Multi-Verse of English Language Awesomeness!!!”.  It must take a lot of work to put something like this together.  How can I help to support you in providing free English lessons that don’t suck?”
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(Concerned Supporter Of English Education)

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“Hello Concerned Supporter of English Education,

 

Thank you for your compliment and for your concern.

 

To answer your question, you could help-out by making a one-time donation to GiveMeSomeEnglish!!! by clicking the link below and donating whatever you think is appropriate.

 

 

Donate To GiveMeSomeEnglish!!!

 

 

Whatever you give is incredibly appreciated and will help to keep the Awesomeness flowing like a fresh mountain stream that nurtures the entire valley below, and brings life to all who drink from its…  well, I think you get the idea.”  😎


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And That’s That…

(Why Don’t You…)

 

Have An Excellent Day!

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